Lead On with Greg & Mark (LOwGaM)
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Lead On with Greg & Mark (LOwGaM)
S3: E6 Things that Make You Go Hmmm: Questions to Ponder while Leading in Complex Times
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With the new year comes resolutions for our lives at home and at work. How often do you reflect on your personal growth and leadership skills? Ever thought about living a life of design and purpose? Join Greg and Mark as we navigate the maze of leading during complex times and share five pivotal questions you should ask yourself every week. We delve into intentional growth, nurturing relationships and pinpointing areas that need improvement. You'll hear us reveal our personal strategies that help us stay focused on our goals and cultivate strong connections.
Not just that, we're going to dive deep into the necessity of personal reflection and self-evaluation. We look into setting goals and fostering relationships, not to mention tackling problems and identifying opportunities. You'll discover how to increase your value in various aspects of life, like being actively engaged with your loved ones and friends. To end it all, we issue an accountability challenge to ourselves, urging you to ponder about your weekly progress. So, are you ready to embrace a journey of intentional living and leading with us? You won't want to miss this.
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You're listening to Lead On with Greg and Mark, brought to you by the Pennsylvania Association of Intermediate Units. Join us this season as we engage in conversations on Leading On through times of complexity. Now for your hosts, Greg and Mark.
Speaker 3Well, hello there, well, hello there.
Speaker 2Does that music ever get old?
Speaker 3It does never get old. It's a new hand clap. Oh, it's so good.
Speaker 2Hey, so a long time ago in the galaxy no, a long time ago I was hooked on Google Reader. Do you remember Google Reader? Do you remember that Google?
Speaker 3Reader, you're going to have to refresh my memory.
Speaker 2So Google Reader doesn't exist anymore. I don't understand why they canceled it. It was an RSS Reader.
Speaker 3Maybe because no one remembers it.
Speaker 2So do you know what an RSS?
Speaker 3is.
Speaker 2It's almost like how the podcast gets distributed to.
Speaker 1Spotify or the.
Speaker 3Apple Play.
Speaker 2So an RSS is like a unique identifier that a data source uses to propagate across the internet. So if you run, if you had a newsletter or a website or a blog, people could subscribe to your RSS feed and an update to your website, your blog or your podcast would appear in your RSS Reader like an email would appear in your inbox, and the whole point was that, instead of going to everybody's websites, you could subscribe to their website and the updates would come to you. I see, so I use something called Feedly now, but I guess Google thought I don't know 10 years ago that RSS feeds were dead, and to some degree, they probably. Well, I don't think they're dead, but people use Facebook and other things to subscribe to stuff.
Speaker 2They use a different right, and so when you subscribe to somebody on Facebook, you're getting their updates, similar to how a few were to subscribe to their RSS feed. Anyway, why do I talk about this? When I was really hot on Google Reader 10, 15 years ago, I used to subscribe to a blog called a lead on purpose, and this is from 2010. This is something that I literally have kept around for the last 13 years and I look at it often. It's from May 31st, by a guy named Michael Ray Hopkins on the lead on purpose blog, and he references actually something that Mark Sanborn Sanborn did, and I think that's actually probably where I found it first, probably from 2007. And these are questions that Mark Sanborn wrote for himself that he shared online on ways that questions to ask himself to help guide a life that you live by design.
Speaker 3All right, so these are questions I refer to these often.
Speaker 2I like it. It's only five questions, five questions. Now. Some of the questions have multiple parts, so think of these questions and then let's react to them. All right, and in the context of work, let's say, because as a podcast about leadership so let's say it's Sunday night or Monday morning. The questions that you would ask yourself are what will I learn this week? Identify what you need to learn, what you want to learn and how you learn it. Growth and development rarely happen accidentally. So what will I learn this week? What do you think?
Speaker 3So I think this is great. First of all, I've heard you know great, there's a lot of studies out there saying that before you, like on a Sunday night, it's a really good idea to write a list of what you're gonna be accomplishing that next day. The other one is if you're leaving the work day at the end of the day at your desk, if there are unfinished items or items you need to do for the following day, make a list right then so that when you come in fresh the next day you can hit the ground running.
Speaker 2Yeah, I love the intentionality here.
Speaker 3Yeah, there's a truly a lot of intentionality.
Speaker 2Right, like literally writing it down? I mean I can't. So here's the irony as much as I love this, I don't necessarily follow this religiously or, you know, prescriptively. But I do agree that growth and development rarely happen accidentally. And so I challenge you and I challenge myself as you think about next week. What will you learn this week? And then it'll be interesting, right. If you write it down, it'll be curious. Will you be more inclined to pursue it, especially as things start to unravel and the best laid plans kind of think take over?
Speaker 3I would say yes, because a lot of times we just try to remember these things and I'm good if it's one thing, but right if it's two, three, four things you wanna accomplish that next week you might get the first two, but the third and fourth might escape your memory.
Speaker 2So Related number two is what relationship will I improve? So number one was what will I learn this week? Number two what relationship will I improve this week? Why? What relationship needs repair or nurturing? Think in terms of both who and how. So again, intentional right.
Speaker 3I think this is great and so many times we just think a relationship is damaged, why bother trying to fix it? And I just think in general, some people may be that way. If you can intentionally look at it and say, all right, this is a relationship I need to build work on. I think it could go a long way.
Speaker 2This is what I actually do. I actually have lists of people that I know I need to check in with, and it's interesting to see, if you put a little check mark next to each name, how many times you've checked in with that person or talked to that person, which people have the most checks and which people have the fewest checks, and it's a nudge to yourself. You gotta check in with that person and it might not be personal. It's not necessarily a referendum on what you think of that person. It could be maybe they're away, or maybe they're working on a project you don't wanna impose, or maybe they are self-sufficient.
Speaker 3I really like that because I think sometimes you might have that high flyer who you think is just good all the time. You still need to check on them, Of course, and provide that support right.
Speaker 2Or to be intentional and say the month of December, I'm gonna check on this department. Oh, there you go. Not to say that you can ignore them for the other 11 months. I don't mean to imply that but like this idea of intentionality in who you're going to talk to, because I think related to number one, left to your own devices and left to your own habits, you probably talk to the people that you see right or the people that make you laugh, whatever. Whatever the thing is right.
Speaker 3That's right, and it's not always easy. If you have a let's say it's a damaged relationship, you're gonna, in many cases, maybe stay away from that or send her for a while, and this is I. Like this you actually make an intentional choice to fix that relationship.
Speaker 2Yeah, and to your point. The last sentence that we read was think in terms of both who and how, who and how. So who has a great relationship, how will I sustain it? Who has a not so great relationship? How will I improve it? And then don't forget about the ones in the bubble. Who do I have a neutral relationship with and what do I do to move it in the right direction? Three, what problem will I address or avoid? Look for a problem that's looming on your horizon and head it off. We talked about this with the surfing episode we did, swimming out to the waves. The waves are where the ocean is chaotic and perhaps unsafe. The surfer goes there. Here's the as the leader, right, you know what's going on. So what's the challenge and the intentionality that you're bringing each week to? Finding a problem that you need to address or perhaps strategically avoid, because not all problems to previous podcasts are our responsibility to solve.
Speaker 3That's absolutely correct, and I think sometimes we feel as leaders that we have to assume all problems or handle all the problems. There could be some that may work themselves out on their own with some of your team members. I think that's a great way of looking at it.
Speaker 2Do you do this as you're driving home or you're driving to work, or as you're sitting in your office or whatever you're doing? Do you often think about a perseverate on problems that you know are out there and what are you gonna do about it? Yes, all the time. So how do you think it through in terms of which ones you're gonna head off or which ones you're gonna let simmer?
Speaker 3I try to think of it as, in my position, what, let's say? It's something with our districts and it's at a superintendent level. It's obviously something that is a priority for me.
Speaker 3There are others where I think sometimes it's at a supervisory level, I have directors who can address that. So what that would come down to instead of me. If it's say it's a supervisor, me dealing directly with a supervisor, I would work with that director on problem solving, whether it be damage control, any kind of things strategically to help build those relationships. That's how I would intervene with the director there.
Speaker 2Yeah, I like that, and sometimes things just go away, sometimes things solve themselves right, Right exactly. So, number one, just a reminder what will I learn this week Two? What relationship will I improve? This week Three, what problem will I address or avoid this week? Number four Greg, what? Okay, go ahead.
Speaker 3Okay. What opportunity will I seize this?
Speaker 2week.
Speaker 3Yeah, this week. So too often we're fixated on our problems and miss our opportunities. Look for opportunities in the midst of challenges, struggles and difficulties. They're out there.
Speaker 2Yeah, I mean, I relate to this one right All the time I mean oftentimes I allow my week to be hijacked by problems that I didn't necessarily plan for or that I avoided, perhaps incorrectly, and now the chickens have what's the word come?
Speaker 3to roost, or whatever the word is right. That's it. So with challenges come opportunities right, and we always say that Now, it's not all the time, but if there's some kind of challenge out there, it does provide an opportunity to do something great.
Speaker 2Yeah, and I think it's being intentional on scheduling time to walk away from the challenges and focus on new opportunities, new innovations, creative problem solving. Perhaps, in trying to be innovative in another way, you discover the solution to a problem that's out there looming Right so I don't do that enough. Do you schedule a lot of time in your calendar for quote innovation Like? Do you literally have like 30 minutes a day to read or to research?
Speaker 3things. I actually tried to schedule some time in the reading, but that never happens, something I'd always get. Don't you get hijacked by other things? Right, because these are important.
Speaker 2Do you feel a little guilty, even the idea that you're gonna sit here and read for 30 minutes?
Speaker 1I do.
Speaker 2It doesn't feel right. Right, there's so much going on. That's right, but isn't it weird though, too, though, like to play contrarian the organization's counting on you to do that, and counting on your directors to do that, absolutely, because if you're not doing it, then who is?
Speaker 3Everybody else is doing the day to day.
Speaker 2But that's my point, right Like someone's gotta be thinking about strategy in the next big thing. You wanna take number five?
Speaker 3Sure number five how will I increase my value this week? So think in terms of what you can do to increase your value to your employer, your customer and your family. Providing more value then you consume makes you a producer. I really like that. It mentions not only your employer, but also your customer and your family.
Speaker 2Yeah, I love that right.
Speaker 3Look at those three different buckets right there. Right, I don't mean to call my family a bucket, but I'm just saying.
Speaker 2Well, it's good to stay called a group. Yeah, it's a. Yeah, I mean it sounds weird to define it that way, but I agree with you. So how might you increase your value at home?
Speaker 3You know, with me, I think, being present for me, that's the whole thing. I know.
Speaker 2You know what I started doing when someone starts to talk to me. If I'm on my phone, which inevitably a guilty pleasure I look at my phone.
Speaker 3I don't watch TV a lot, I watch sports, but if my son or my daughter, I text right away, you text back right away.
Speaker 2Yeah, but I just have a watch right. But I'll put the phone down if someone's talking to me. You know what I mean as opposed to like keep looking at the screen or or have it in my hand I literally closed the app that I'm on or whatever. Like you know, push the button, put it in sleep and put it down. Do you turn it over?
Speaker 1Yeah.
Speaker 2I put it down and turn it over and then I try to model or indicate with body language that I hear you, I see you and I'm engaged. So I've been, I've been trying to do that.
Speaker 3I think that's great and it's you know I have. I have three kids at home and a lot of times you'll see it and there's my wife and I are on our phones and our three kids on their phones and it's all having parallel conversations but not being there.
Speaker 2Yeah, that's. Sherry Turkle will learn together. Yeah, that's it. We're all together, but we're all alone. Yeah, so what about? What about? What about you, either at work or with your friends, in terms?
Speaker 3of value. I would say I probably do my best when I'm with my friends. I have a great friend network at home, and I would say that's probably where I have the phone away the most.
Speaker 2So forget about the phone, right, I mean, unless it's related just in terms of adding value just adding value.
Speaker 3So there's so much you know. I look at the friend network and so much they've done for me over the years and it's just pretty cool how friends become family.
Speaker 2Yeah.
Speaker 3You know it's, it's, it's an extension of your family.
Speaker 2But don't you think that, like I think? Here's an example how we try to add value for one another? I don't think we did it in response to this question, but I think it happens and perhaps we could fit into this box. You and I text each other at least two or three times a day songs on Spotify.
Speaker 3It's just songs and a lot of times no words.
Speaker 2No, like literally, I'm listening to the song. It's awesome, you should hear it right, but we don't actually say that it's just understood. Yeah, don't you think that adds value?
Speaker 3It absolutely does, and there's a different, there's a different layer with music, excuse me, yeah, just so. You look at the geez, you look at the music, the lyrics, everything that's going on with it.
Speaker 2Yeah, and it and it adds value, right? Sure does, yeah. So not only are you introducing somebody to a new song, isn't the point really that someone was thinking of you? And they thought that someone thought of you in a way that they thought you would like the song and they sent it to you.
Speaker 3That's exactly right, you know, cause I know I grew up listening to a lot more folk music, things like that. The more I've been hanging out with Hoffman here, the more it's like this harder edge. It's like, yeah, it's like this heavy metal guy I mean I'm going to see that in the Metallica band. I mean you never thought you'd hear that.
Speaker 2No, no, no, no, no, no. All right. So these are Mark Samboards Five questions that he recommends that we ask ourselves each week. What will I learn this week? What relationship will I improve this week? What problem will I address or avoid this week?
Speaker 3And number four and five Number four is what opportunity will I seize this week? And number five how will I increase my value this week?
Speaker 2So just a little thing I've been trying to do. I've been trying to journal a little bit more, that's great.
Speaker 2I am not usually successful. I've tried many times to journal. I have friends that journal successfully. I'm incredibly envious and jealous of people who journal. I find that when I do it my thoughts become more lucid and I get a little bit better in my practice and a little more reflective. However, it's really hard for me to keep that routine. So, anyway, I'm leveraging these five questions as a framework to help prompt me and give me motivation or at least something to write about. So if I don't know what I'm going to write about, but I know I want to, journal.
Speaker 3I'll pick one of these questions I think that's perfect and tell me, do you have this by your bedside? How do you handle like there's a journal? I've tried everything.
Speaker 2I've tried paper and pen, I've tried the rocket books, I've tried remarkables. You know what actually seems to be the one that's working the most? And I'll ask me again in like two months, but the one that seems to be working now is Google Docs. Google Docs. So and that was a friend I said to my friend Joe, shout out to Joe. I said what are you using to journal so successfully? And he said that Google Docs works because he can access it from anywhere and he can hyperlink and do all that stuff. That's true. That's just as a tab. He has a document that he uses for his journal. So I've been trying that. I find that that is a lot easier and I find that I am a person who thinks better when, when I type Like I'm not really great at dictating, like I couldn't. I couldn't dictate an essay or a paragraph, but I could definitely write it with my fingers on a keyboard. I could see that. So Any aspirations of journal.
Weekly Reflection and Accountability Challenge
Speaker 3Yeah, I do, I do, I've been trying. I had, like I said, the bedside. I have a journal on my bedside. I haven't touched it in like a couple weeks as far as journaling.
Speaker 2All right, you want to challenge each other to take one of these questions, even if it's weekly. Just take one of the questions, yeah, let's do it. And you could even put these in the past tense what did I learn this week? What relationship did I improve this week? What problem did I address this week? What, what, what opportunity did I see? Is, how did I increase my value? And if you can't answer those questions, then you probably have to reframe what you're gonna do the following week.
Speaker 3That's right. Yeah, I'm, I'm on, I'm in. You want to do it?
Speaker 2Yes, All right. So, listeners, I challenge you to do the same either reflect on your previously week by putting these things sort of in the the past tense mindset, or Reflect on and project for the coming week With what you intend to do. And then you know the kind of the cool thing would be if you project for what you want to do the coming week, how will I? You can actually go back at the end of the week and evaluate yourself.
Speaker 3Yeah, I think that's perfect.
Speaker 2All right, so you're in.
Speaker 3I'm in All right.
Speaker 2So readers a little. Yeah, readers, listeners, we encourage you to do the same, that's right, and We'll do a follow-up episode Maybe in a couple weeks. I think that sounds perfect All right deal what?
Speaker 3do you say we wrap this up? Yeah, so thanks for listening to lead on with Greg and Mark. In the meantime, let's make it a great day and innovate. What do we need to innovate?
Speaker 2mark the USA hit me with that music hit the music yeah. You.
